Regarding Arguments

Perhaps you have heard the “news” that certain celeb couples have never had an argument. Let’s assume that they are telling the truth (for argument’s sake, lol). I can think of one major reason why these couples might not have had any harsh words between them: money. What do normal couples fight about? Money, honey! If they aren’t disagreeing directly about finances, then often they’re not in sync with related issues. If you have millions of dollars, any conflict (except perhaps for infidelity) can be smoothed over by flinging money at it. 

My parents argued constantly, and money was often at the root of it. My mother grew up poor and didn’t like to be wasteful. She always worried about saving up for an emergency. My father was much more relaxed about finances and believed (incorrectly) that he could always find a new, higher paying job. He grew annoyed if my mom even mentioned finances ~ boring! Naturally, his disregard of her concerns made her more anxious. 

The super wealthy do not argue about where to buy a house because they can afford multiple properties, along with cars, boats, planes, etc. They don’t bicker over vacation destinations because they can afford multiple trips per year to exotic locales. Richies aren’t cranky due to a baby keeping them awake all night because they have a nanny to deal with fussy kids. Wealthy couples don’t crab about whose turn it is to do the dishes because they have a maid. Need cosmetic surgery or another expensive medical procedure not covered by insurance? No problem for the uber rich! Yada.

Of course, if a couple is truly incompatible, then no amount of money is going to make things right, though a lot of it can sure help ease the pain of being married to someone who annoys you. Simply having a larger house can make it easier to avoid unwanted interaction, for example. I think my parents genuinely loved each other, but various stresses, especially financial ones, meant that they were frequently at odds. On the other hand, my husbands were insane, which precluded my getting along with them. I doubt more money would have helped in those cases or with the men I dated later whose ideas about relationships were vastly different from mine.

But it certainly wouldn’t have made things worse! And in the case of megabucks celeb couples who allegedly never argue, I suspect it’s because they don’t have to worry about finances. Take away their money, toys, fancy duds, personal trainers, maids, and nannies, give them jobs at a warehouse, and make them live in a one bedroom apartment… let’s see how well they get along then.